I've lived 6 years in Seoul, and now I'm living in Tokyo, I've dated about 3 Japanese girls and 5 Korean girls( only serious relationships, have met definitely hundreds of Korean girls but mostly just l.ight relationships,drinking partners hookups etc.) And I could tell that alot of Korean men behave the way that OP described. And honestly I don't blame them. Amongst Koreans themselves and amongst Japanese people, Koreans do have a bit of a reputation of being stubborn and hot headed , which I can backup because I've had huge fights over very small matters with Koreans I dated. Japanese girls are definitely more calm, more humble and more polite. This is all just my experience though so I can't speak for other guys. So I don't really blame Korean men for being attracted to Japanese girls. One more thing that my Korean female friends told me was that 2 big reasons that Korean men like Japanese girls are :
1- the Korean government blocks porn websites, so a lot of men that try to watch porn end up torrenting/downloading Japanese porn and hence get an idea that Japan girls are sex goddesses (which they're not)
2- Some Korean men prefer submissive girls and they might have difficulties picking up Korean girls due to their looks or other issues. I used to work at a guest house in Seoul and my coworkers where Korean men, a couple of them kept talking about Japanese girls and even looking at Japanese porn behind the counter , usually when Japanese female tourists stayed at our guesthouse they would immediately try to spark a conversation and try to get the girl to drink or go clubbing with them. These guys where fat, not attractive, messy hair, dirty glasses etc. So I know for sure that if they as much as tried to pick up a Korean girl to drink with on the street the would either get bitch slapped or get the cops called on them , and ofcourse they know that, so they target Japanese girls Since the Japanese girls they talked to also didn't seem to like these men but they would still drink with them in order to not seek disrespectful. I believe Japanese people care alot being humble and respectful in public and so they wouldn't refuse.
In Korea it's different, I've seen girls on the streets hitting and screaming at their boyfriends for god knows what. I have yet to see an encounter like this in Japan .
Hope this helps, keep in mind this is all just personal experience. I don't want to shit on Korean people ( I love Korea ) but I also want to be honest and I do definitely agree that alot of young Koreans are wayyy more aggressive th.an young Japanese
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요약하자면 한국에서 6년 거주이후, 지금 일본에서 살고 있는 배긴남성이 쓴 글인데 (2023년 글임)
한국여자들은 너무 고집세고, 기가세고, 목소리가 크고, 감정적이래.
글쓴이가 작고 사소한걸로 한녀여친들이랑 말다툼하고 싸운게 한두번이 아니래. 반면 일본여친들은 그런거 없대.
다혈질적이지 않기에, 최대한 감젇 추수려서 예의지키면서 선 안넘고, 침착하고, 공손함. 물론 일녀도 인간이기에 이게 쌓이고 쌓이면 뒷통수치고 이별하겠다만, 일단 감정적이지 않으니 사소한걸로 막 고함치고 싸워서 상처는 더 깊어지고, 화난김에 횟김에 헤어지고, 고통받고 이러진 않으니 한녀보단 낫겟지
글작성자가 심지어 길거리에서 여러 사람들 앞에서 한국여자가 남친폭행하고 고함치고 소리지르고 그런거 봐서 문화충격이였는데
일본에서는 본적없다네.
한국여자들은 남친에 대한 존중이 없을뿐더러, 감정적이고 어그레시브 (공격적인 성향)이 너무 강하다고 말하는데 이거 전적으로 동의한다.
sm플레이에 빠진 변태가 아닌이상 공격적이고 감정적인 여자와 사랑하고 싶은 남자는 얼마나 있을까..